Monday, June 29, 2009

Domesticated isn't a 'bad' word

It has struck me, quite bluntly, in the past year how domesticated I am/have become. I always enjoyed creative expression, but never really saw myself as the ‘domesticated type.’ I suppose I like to fancy myself more of a liberal thinking, somewhat feminist (not radical, but pro-equality), independent, wildly-opinionated and educated kind of person. Obviously I don’t feel that those who like to think of themselves as domesticated do not have these other traits as well, because I know that both can exist in harmony, as that is the life I’m currently living.

I believe that my confusion may be more a result of the swiftness at which my independent-student identity became a co-dependent marriage relationship, where in just a mere two years I’ve studied much less, am expecting my first child (nothing screams domestication to me like being barefoot and pregnant; I dislike wearing socks), and run an online business where I sew and sell my creations. I’ve always enjoyed baking and creating a new recipe to my own taste, I appreciate a clean home, and love saving money by making things to decorate it myself. It seems as though in two short years, my life has changed completely.

I suppose my shock is more a mourning for the things that have taken a backseat to my current responsibilities, don’t worry, I have not forgotten about equality (my husband is aware of how to do laundry, dishes and clean the bathroom, activities he participates in regularly). I do miss studying, and feeling a certain air of independence. Maybe I can find independence in the process of running my shop/business. There’s a certain thrill and joy that comes from finding success in such an endeavour.

Why am I mulling over these things? My two year marriage anniversary is tomorrow, though we won’t be celebrating till after the move is complete and after the baby has arrived, and I suppose landmarks like this makes one reflect. I am very happy with my current status as a wife/mother-to-be and Martha Stewart fan; I’m simply reminding myself that there can and must be harmony between my roles, and passions. I think I’ve found it, just didn’t expect it to look as ‘domesticated’ as it does.

Only one week left till we move to another community, and two weeks until my son is due to be born.

Happy Anniversary Husband!

Wednesday, June 24, 2009

It's been a while..

Sigh, my poor shop and blog, both are appearing neglected and pathetic as of late. As readers are aware, I’m currently awaiting the arrival, or rather birth of my baby boy. This is the 37th week of my pregnancy and I’m extremely eager to have this portion of parenthood over with, even though as a first time mother I’m ‘mildly’ terrified of the process.

Other than this, there are other excuses for the lack of new items appearing in my shop. We found out approximately a month ago that we’re moving, and we’re moving to another community all together in just about 12 days from today. So the current battle has been trying to organize house and home into boxes while carrying around an extra 30 pounds (most of which feels like water weight that loves to cause painful and annoying swelling. At least, please hope with me that it is a lot of water weight). There’s also the extra complication of attempting to get the perfect shot of a product with a huge belly in the way, there are new products ready to be posted but I’m thinking they’ll have to wait until I can hand the baby over to the husband to hold and can effectively manoeuvre my body with a camera once again.

The items in the shop are still available for sale and will be shipped on time, until labour begins. I will soon have to put the shop in vacation mode until post delivery and post move.

For those of you who check my shop from time to time and are following this blog, thanks so much for your continued support. I’m eagerly looking forward to picking up business again full swing once the next 30 days or so have passed. For those of you who pray, please pray that everything goes well for us. We’re very excited about this next chapter of our lives and marriage, and I’m sure much of it will show up here.

Before I go, my friend Lesley has started a blog, she’s got some amazing sons that you may enjoy reading about, check it out here;